Never Say Never

Because it could happen to you too

I must confess that this letter is somebody’s fault🥲✋

Until today, I never in my life thought I would watch Anime, talk more of liking it.

Anytime anybody ever says, “Oh, I watch Anime”, I am the number one critic. I’ll always be like

“Why on earth would you watch a grown-up version of cartoon, all in a different language, and claim you like it?”

That was until somebody’s son somehow cajoled me, and then few hours later, I found myself in the 5th episode of ATTACK ON TITAN.

So, B.O., if you’re reading this, I blame you like cray cray!🫵😭

Have you noticed that, many times, we hate being proven wrong?. Especially if you’re that kind of deep intellectual who sees A and then thinks Z. You always blow thoughts out of proportion, and although you like to believe you’re a liberal pacifist ( I like using that word because it makes me feel like I have Martin L. King brain!😇🥰), it irks you when another intellectual or not-so-intellectual person is right and you’re wrong.

For me, when I’m having a heated discussion with someone even over the littlest things, I learn when to concede defeat and when not to.

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Because here’s the tricky thing about life: Never say never.

Things you never would have considered or activities you laughed at years ago could turn out to be the same things you’re doing right now.

lol.

You know when they say life is a school? It literally is. Oh chim.

Let me scratch my Anime experience and give another example.

You see domestic abuse? My absolute NO.

You see staying in that abusive marriage? BIGGEST NO. I sometimes even judge the spouse. For not leaving. For not seeing the signs. For being broken again and again and choosing to stay. Oh, how I judged.

That was until I sat with a domestic abuse victim who had gone through therapy. I listened to her story.

I was shocked beyond my eardrums that this woman had once been a beating drum. This confident woman before me? Like howwwww. Make it make sense.

If she hadn’t told me her story, her past would never have occurred to me.

And so, talking to her, a part of my chest shifted. I couldn’t judge her for not leaving. For remaining the bruised wife until she finally understood she had to leave or die. This was someone who had spent her entire life searching for something to fill the black hole in her life. And when her husband came along, the only thing she knew back then was to hold on no matter what.

After that conversation, I sat with my inner child and we had a little tit-for-tat.

“Chi, you’ve always judged the victims for not doing something about their situation. For keeping quiet. For staying mute. So how about now? when the experience hits close to home? Close to someone whose dark past you never could have imagined?”

I sat there for several minutes. And I just. Could. Not. Respond.

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Never Say Never is not about accepting bad things happening to you.

It’s about realizing that we are all humans. And humanity is just a cloak Soul puts on to cover Its experiences, Its lessons, Its feelings.

Maybe it’s not about judging other people’s situations or trying to exert dominance of your philosophies over other people’s own.

Maybe it’s about accepting that in diversity, unity also lives. Two meanings can intersect at a vantage point.

Even in one universe, two worlds can coexist.